Like I had mentioned before, my sister and I don't always get along. At times I have tried to work on our relationship, but it hasn't always worked out like I had planned or hoped. I have not physically seen her for a year and a half. This weekend we are both in town visiting our parents together. We're staying different places, but obvious we still see each other and are spending time in the same room. I didn't know what to expect. But I have prepared.
Even though we don't always see eye to eye or get along 100% of the time, my object is to be nice and attempt to get along. This also was the first time she would meet Em. The main reason Brad and I came to town was for my cousin's twins baptism. While at the church Em got passed around to different family members. At one point Brad told me to look, my sister was holding Em. One of my cousin kept wanting to hold Em again, but I told her, No let my sister hold her this is the first time she's met her.
During the luncheon my niece and nephews kept coming over and talking to Em and I. She was again getting passed around and I look over and my brother-in-law had her. My cute little niece was loving holding her, I got some cute pictures of them too.
Afterwards I was texting MacKenzie and she asked how things were with my sis. I told about her holding Em and she responded, "You let her hold your daughter?" I told her, "I'm trying with my sister. The object is to be civil. I'm not opening myself up for getting hurt, but I'm putting forth and effort."
How much worse would I make things if I said, "No. You have treated me horribly at times so no you can NOT hold my child!" That would only make things worst. I also thought about it in another was, is my child in physical danger by my sister holding her, No. Now, if it were someone like Jack, would I let him hold her, No. I even let my Grandpa around her. At the luncheon I was about to eat and he wasn't so I had him hold her while I eat. I'm 99% sure he isn't standing there whispering verbal abuse to her, so I'm okay with that. So far this trip, no incidences (knock on wood)... But as James has pointed out, I'm so protective of my daughter, I do NOT let dad do anything in front of her or around her!
We got together again for dinner and for my niece and nephew's birthday parties. Where I once again found my sister hold my little girl. I got some pictures of my sis with her and also was proud of the fact that I got a picture of all my Mom's grandkids and for once I have a kid in it!
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